In this “Shame Series,” I’ve discussed a lot about where shame originates from, the negative effects shame has on our lives and the health of our bodies, and shared different processes for how to heal shame. However, in this last video of the series, I speak on something we haven’t touched yet: generational shame. A…
The Shame/Illness Connection | Shame Series
Holding shame in our consciousness and vibration not only creates negative experiences in our life, but also negative health in our bodies. In this penultimate video in my Shame series, I discuss the connection between shame and illness, what I discovered about shame being the root cause of my HIV-positive diagnosis, and what the process…
Perfectionism As the Mask of Shame | Shame Series
Often in our culture, we view perfectionism as something to be praised. We see those who constantly go above and beyond, who cross all their ‘t”s and dot all their ‘i”s, who always have to be and present the best, as people to be praised and examples to be followed. However, what I learned through…
Hiding Vs Letting Ourselves Be Seen | Shame Series
When we feel ashamed, we adopt certain behavioral defense mechanisms, as a result. And we do so, initially, to protect ourselves from being either emotionally or physically harmed. One of these behaviors is “hiding.” We hide the parts of ourselves that we feel ashamed about. However, instead of actually protecting us, hiding ourselves ultimately ends…
Love is Belonging | Shame Series
I’m back from the annual retreat I take every July, and I have some new insights around shame I’d like to share. Particularly, what shame actually is, how it effects and weakens our lives, and what it takes to heal it. So to share those insights, I’m starting a new video series! This video is…
How to Stop a Shame Spiral
Have you ever got caught up in a shame spiral? A moment where you just can’t seem to stop judging, criticizing, or rejecting yourself somehow? These spirals can start for many reasons: maybe you notice something you don’t like about your body, or you didn’t receive an outcome that you wanted, or someone criticized you…
